Taboo #2

Okay I am just going to put this out there. Today's taboo is about anal sex. WAIT!! Stay with me here I have a surprising statistic for you....it is estimated that 1 in 4 heterosexual couples has or has tried anal. Yes, seriously.

Now why talk about this taboo? Because I can tell you that most men have at least entertained the thought of giving (and perhaps even receiving) anal with their partner. Its a tighter entrance that causes greater friction and therefore more pleasure for them. But I can tell you this, it creates different sensations for a woman too and can be equally pleasurable.

There are right ways and wrong ways to go about it.

First (and this is VERY important) is to remember that this particular orifice is NOT self lubricating. A good water soluble lubricant is highly recommend.

Next, if the thought of something that big going into your exit makes you nervous and tense then it will probably be best for you to start small. Try a finger to start with then graduate to personal toys (they make a wide variety), and then when you're ready you can attempt the real thing. Its better all around if you are relaxed and into the moment. Speaking from the women's point of view, its easiest if you are close to climaxing. And, this one may sound crazy, but if you are pregnant it may make you more relaxed due to the chemical called Relaxin that your body makes naturally when its expecting.

Third, to the person doing the giving remember to go SLOW for your partner until they are ready to go on, sometimes it takes a minute to adjust to the size.

Now then, something else to think about is that it can be pleasurable for a guy as well. As in, something in their rear. The extra pressure that's created puts more pressure on the prostate gland and will give them a very intense and satisfying orgasm.

Just remember to keep the line of communication open, and if your partner thinks they can handle something and it turns out they can't, don't get upset or mad, just try again later! Engaging in anal with your partner takes a lot of trust and openness, and ultimately can be one of the most intense experience you can have together.

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Fantasy man Friday!

By special request, Vin Diesel!!

Is he one of the sexiest men alive...yes I really do think so!

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WAWW

Happy Wednesday everyone. We've had some plus size women, some clothed women, and some older women. Today, just a sexy model type woman.

The link is under the picture.

Intamacy

I know a good number of people who struggle with intimacy issues. At the end of the day they just want a nice quiet evening to themselves, but they can't have that because their partner comes home and wants attention. So you suck it up and put up with it.

Most men (sorry guys this is the truth here) think that intimacy = sex. It does NOT!

I know that, in my own personal life, I give all the emotion and affection I have to my kids all day. Children, like an over-demanding boss, can sap the emotion out of you. When my husband gets home in the evening sometimes its hard for me to want to be intimate with him. And, sometimes its hard for him too, because all he wants to do is sit and relax. He's also one of those intimacy = sex kind of guys too.

Intimacy for a women is talking and cuddling. Its holding hand or playing with her hair. You would be amazed at what an unexpected hug can do to improve her mood.

And sometimes, intimacy is doing the dishes for her, or helping pick up after dinner. These are small romantic gestures that will reaffirm your affection for her.

Ladies, romantic intimacy for a man is different. Sometimes it can mean those small touches and looks. But mostly men are physical creatures; their idea of romance is if you initiate intercourse. But, I promise you that doing some small gestures will make him far more receptive to your kind of intimacy. Slip a love note in his lunchbox, send him a text that tells him how much you appreciated him taking out the trash last night. Even the roughest toughest man will smile and tuck away those notes and save the texts. Before we were married I wrote my honey a "have a good day at work" note. Six years later, I am cleaning our room and find a small box under the dresser I never noticed before. I look inside, and find a collection of every anniversary card and love note I have ever written him, including the first note from before we were married.

The point to this? Intimacy is important for a healthy relationship and sex life. Without intimacy your sex life won't be as good, and without a good sex life your relationship will start to have problems.

I am going to start a series of 5 posts this week (excluding this one) about the 5 things that make a solid foundation for a solid relationship. Feel free to add things as we go!

Fantasy Man Friday

I cannot express how flippin' happy I am that today is Friday. This has been the longest week on record!
Happy Friday everyone, and I hope y'all have an amazing weekend!

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Taboo Topic #1

I am going to be going through some topics in the next few weeks that would normally be considered "taboo" or uncomfortable to talk about.

Taboo topic #1: Masturbation

I know some of you are hastily clicking the close button right now, but for the rest of you hang with me! (No pun intended)

Some people are from the school of thought that its not good for you, and some are from the school that says in moderation its okay! As for me, I am from the second school.

Masturbation, in both men and WOMEN, is healthy and natural. I come from a family that doing 'that' is no acceptable. Period. But, as I got older I have found many things out. Masturbation is healthy (much more so than say having multiple partners) and its a great release for frustration and stress. Its also healthy for your future sex life, or your current. We all know how aggravating it can be to not orgasm when you know your close or that you should. Here's the thing ladies (and some guys too) if you masturbate, by yourself, then you can take the time to find out what you need to get you there. I had a teacher in 11th grade (so serious) that put it like this, "Masturbation is natural and healthy. Think about it like this if you don't know what you like, how can you expect your partner to know what you like?" A profound statement that made an impact on me.

We are pleasure driven creatures, motivated by instinct. Several other species of animals masturbate. Why? Because, hey it feels good, and also because it ensures that when its time to actually reproduce offspring you know how to do it. Some people think that we should evolved past that point, but truthfully we haven't. When you're hungry you eat, when you're tired you sleep, and when you need sexual release you take matters into you own hands!

This comes with a caution though, please remember that there's a time and place for everything. And frequent masturbation in adults (not so much for teenagers) could be a sign of something more serious.

If you have a taboo topic you'd like me to talk about you can send me an anonymous comment here or send one to my e-mail. I promise I will use the ut-most discretion and names, addresses, and comments will never be posted for others to see.

MIA and WAWW

I appologise for not posting for the past couple of days. I have been MIA because of the never ending cold. I finally went to the doctor last night, and it turns out I have bronchitis and a sinus infection and an ear infection. So, now with inhaler, codine cough syrup, and antibiotics in hand I will do my best to get back on the horse.

She's 50 years old y'all! 50!! I sure hope I look like that at 50- heck, I'd like to look like that now!

Happy Hump Day everyone!