Taboo #2

Okay I am just going to put this out there. Today's taboo is about anal sex. WAIT!! Stay with me here I have a surprising statistic for you....it is estimated that 1 in 4 heterosexual couples has or has tried anal. Yes, seriously.

Now why talk about this taboo? Because I can tell you that most men have at least entertained the thought of giving (and perhaps even receiving) anal with their partner. Its a tighter entrance that causes greater friction and therefore more pleasure for them. But I can tell you this, it creates different sensations for a woman too and can be equally pleasurable.

There are right ways and wrong ways to go about it.

First (and this is VERY important) is to remember that this particular orifice is NOT self lubricating. A good water soluble lubricant is highly recommend.

Next, if the thought of something that big going into your exit makes you nervous and tense then it will probably be best for you to start small. Try a finger to start with then graduate to personal toys (they make a wide variety), and then when you're ready you can attempt the real thing. Its better all around if you are relaxed and into the moment. Speaking from the women's point of view, its easiest if you are close to climaxing. And, this one may sound crazy, but if you are pregnant it may make you more relaxed due to the chemical called Relaxin that your body makes naturally when its expecting.

Third, to the person doing the giving remember to go SLOW for your partner until they are ready to go on, sometimes it takes a minute to adjust to the size.

Now then, something else to think about is that it can be pleasurable for a guy as well. As in, something in their rear. The extra pressure that's created puts more pressure on the prostate gland and will give them a very intense and satisfying orgasm.

Just remember to keep the line of communication open, and if your partner thinks they can handle something and it turns out they can't, don't get upset or mad, just try again later! Engaging in anal with your partner takes a lot of trust and openness, and ultimately can be one of the most intense experience you can have together.

Article found here.

Fantasy man Friday!

By special request, Vin Diesel!!

Is he one of the sexiest men alive...yes I really do think so!

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WAWW

Happy Wednesday everyone. We've had some plus size women, some clothed women, and some older women. Today, just a sexy model type woman.

The link is under the picture.

Intamacy

I know a good number of people who struggle with intimacy issues. At the end of the day they just want a nice quiet evening to themselves, but they can't have that because their partner comes home and wants attention. So you suck it up and put up with it.

Most men (sorry guys this is the truth here) think that intimacy = sex. It does NOT!

I know that, in my own personal life, I give all the emotion and affection I have to my kids all day. Children, like an over-demanding boss, can sap the emotion out of you. When my husband gets home in the evening sometimes its hard for me to want to be intimate with him. And, sometimes its hard for him too, because all he wants to do is sit and relax. He's also one of those intimacy = sex kind of guys too.

Intimacy for a women is talking and cuddling. Its holding hand or playing with her hair. You would be amazed at what an unexpected hug can do to improve her mood.

And sometimes, intimacy is doing the dishes for her, or helping pick up after dinner. These are small romantic gestures that will reaffirm your affection for her.

Ladies, romantic intimacy for a man is different. Sometimes it can mean those small touches and looks. But mostly men are physical creatures; their idea of romance is if you initiate intercourse. But, I promise you that doing some small gestures will make him far more receptive to your kind of intimacy. Slip a love note in his lunchbox, send him a text that tells him how much you appreciated him taking out the trash last night. Even the roughest toughest man will smile and tuck away those notes and save the texts. Before we were married I wrote my honey a "have a good day at work" note. Six years later, I am cleaning our room and find a small box under the dresser I never noticed before. I look inside, and find a collection of every anniversary card and love note I have ever written him, including the first note from before we were married.

The point to this? Intimacy is important for a healthy relationship and sex life. Without intimacy your sex life won't be as good, and without a good sex life your relationship will start to have problems.

I am going to start a series of 5 posts this week (excluding this one) about the 5 things that make a solid foundation for a solid relationship. Feel free to add things as we go!